Dear Henry, are we ready for you?
We had to reorder the baby shower invitations because the old ones didn't make sense. Henry is already here...
With this order came the realization that we never finished registering.
The first time we went to register, I made the mistake of going on an empty stomach, at 18 weeks pregnant, in flip flops. We walked into Buy Buy Baby completely clueless and we just started scanning... everything. We needed bibs, spoons, books, pee pee tee pee... I hadn't done any research on strollers so we skipped that. On to car seats... which is the safest? I had no idea. What type of swing would he want? Do I register for a glider? diapers? How do you pick a crib? Whats the nursery theme?. I had a break down and we had only been inside the building for 15 minutes. I didn't know anything about anything. My feet hurt... I obviously needed more time. Most of all I was starving, but also nauseous. So I put it out of my mind... the time will come when I'm ready to return to this baby store.
When I went home I started the research and I asked my friends opinions. I started with strollers. I found out quickly that strollers were a very passionate subject. This one was the safest. This one was the best bang for your buck. This one was what the cool moms had. Don't be cheap. This is what I got, but this is what you should get. I love mine. I hate mine. Mine was only $1000. Mine was only $300 and it comes with a car seat. That one is for people who don't love their children. This one is too bulky..... on and on. It was very difficult to pick the one I wanted. Every big item had the same reaction. I felt judge, but I also found myself judging other peoples choices.... crap.
So I stopped thinking about the whole thing, when we were ready we would go back. But then Henry came... and it was scary. Now, we are at a point where I'm not scared everyday, and even though we have a 7 week old, we don't have anything to care for him outside of the NICU, and I was ready to try registering again. Matt opted out and went to hang out with Henry instead.
I brought my parents! This time it wasn't so overwhelming, I saw the flaw in my first trip. This was about the 3 of us, and whats best for Henry to have a comfortable life at home.
We walked into Buy Buy Baby and the lady asked for my name and my due date... October 21st just didn't seem like a real date anymore. She gave me a scanner and we went to town. It was actually a good time, we spent a couple of hours here and I was able to imagine Henry using all of these things.
My parents wanted to buy us a crib, so they had to go around and take pictures next to the ones I liked, to send to Matt and get his opinion, and we decided on one! So exciting! Then we went to Target!
I'm happy that its done but I'm so proud of my turn around in attitude. Once I stopped worrying and wondering about everyone else's ideals, and started thinking only about what was best for us and Henry it really was a good experience!
-Nikki
